Men and Women, Sex and Orgasm


Dating Advice For Women - How To Capture A Man's Heart and Make Him Love You Forever

While this website is mostly about women's enjoyment of sexual intercourse, obviously one of the big issues that arises here is that you have to be in a relationship before you can actually start to enjoy sexual intercourse!

So that's why I want to talk about another issue before we plough into the nitty-gritty of sexual exploration and enjoyment -- and that nitty-gritty is actually the question of how you get into a relationship in the first place!

Yes, that is pretty fundamental. But it is an important question, because if you think about the difficulties that we have in finding relationships, you're almost certainly going to think of women who can't approach men because the cultural standards suggest the running has to come from the man, you're going to think of men who can't approach women because they're so frightened of rejection that their nerve fails them, and you're going to think of misunderstanding after misunderstanding, and relationship difficulties and even relationship break-ups.

cute image for capture his heart and make him love you foreverSo the way I see it is that any Internet advice program, any collection of dating techniques, or information that can give you more confidence about how to approach members of the opposite sex, or how to have a successful relationship, has got to be well worth promoting. And here it is - CAPTURE HIS HEART AND MAKE HIM LOVE YOU FOREVER.

Now I know there can be a lot of cynicism and sarcasm about the idea that you can learn how to have a successful relationship by reading an Internet advice program, but the reality of the situation is rather different. In my opinion, Internet advice programs are actually a very good way of making life easier for yourself if you're looking for a romantic involvement. Why do I say this?

Well, from experience in my London practice of counseling and therapy, I'd say most people do need a great deal of help when it comes to dating and mating, because it isn't that easy to form a relationship, and it certainly isn't that easy to maintain one.

I'm thinking also here particularly of women, who aside from being the target of many questionable dating programs on the Internet which seem to regard them as commodities for men's sexual pleasure, are doubly disadvantaged in that they face a cultural norm which suggests that it's absolutely imperative that the man should be the first person to make a move within any kind of romantic overture.

Needless to say, I certainly don't believe this! We're living in a liberated era, or least we're supposed to be, an era where men and women should have equal opportunity to seek out relationships with members of the opposite sex and where we need to be aware that any information and advice that is presented as an adjunct to establishing a romantic relationship is available to both sexes.

So I'm going to talk to you here about a program for women who want a relationship that I discovered called Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You for Ever. It is intended for women, and in particular it's intended for women who want to get into a romantic relationship with a man. The authors are Claire Casey and Mike Fiore, two relationship gurus of long-standing.

cute image for capture his heart and make him love you forever by claire casey and mike fioreThe object of the exercise is to explain to women all about male thoughts feelings and behavior, so that a woman is much better equipped to approach a man with a confident expectation of being able to talk to him in a way that catches his interest, leads to the possibility of further intimacy, and perhaps even might be a way of enabling the woman to genuinely "capture the man's heart" and engage him in a romantic relationship for ever.

Capture his heart and make him love you forever isn't just a cynical attempt to manipulate men into a relationship. Far from it, it's a genuine attempt to provide dating advice and information for women which allows men are worried to get together on the basis of equality, and former relationship founded on good principles of emotional intimacy, good clear communication and mutual respect.

Most reviews of this program on the Internet are nothing more than shams which are thinly disguised sales pitches. So to avoid falling into this trap, what I've done it right a website which actually is more of a description of the contents of the program, so that you can make a choice of yourself as to whether or not you buy it. This Is a somewhat radical approach to reviewing Capture His Heart and Making A Man Love You Forever review, but I find it's actually a very helpful and useful one for women who want to know whether or not they genuinely can find advice that will enable them to relate to men more easily.

Orgasm Survey

The rest of this page describes the findings of research conducted into the female orgasm by the website VulvaVelvet.org. Over 200 women responded to a survey in which they answered questions about their sex lives, how they reached orgasm, and a variety of other sexual information. The general conclusions are as set out below:

First, although a sizable percent of women do not achieve orgasm during intercourse, in general they experience their sexual encounters positively.

In this study, the average woman enjoyed intercourse and considered the sexual dimension of her life to be a major source of gratification. She did not find intercourse painful and was not particularly concerned about getting hurt or becoming unexpectedly pregnant when she was vaginally penetrated.

She spent quite a bit of time thinking about sex and preferred to have intercourse with considerable frequency. She did not feel that her partner was making inordinate sexual demands upon her, but often she wished he would delay his orgasm. If you want ways to stop premature ejaculation, the facts are here - and because men reach orgasm during intercourse faster than women reach orgasm, controlling ejaculation is a great idea for female satisfaction!.

A picture emerges in which sexual stimulation and all that is associated with it has a clear positive effect in the lives of the women who were studied. Sex was largely perceived by them as a source of fun and enjoyment. So although the sexual relationship is a complicated one and often calls for new adaptations, it is very rewarding to the vast majority of women.

Advice on better sex

Some of the confusion in the literature about how much satisfaction women obtain from sexual stimulation derives from the subjective nature of "sexual satisfaction."

It is difficult to pin this term down, and so the temptation is great to use fairly simple indices such as orgasm consistency or intercourse frequency as measures of a person's sexual experiences.

Those who have criticized older work by Kinsey and Masters and Johnson because it emphasizes the measurement of orgasm would be less vociferous if they were personally confronted with the responsibility of deciding how to evaluate an individual's response to sexual stimulation.

Stranger than truth....

A woman may need more than one orgasm to relax her tension ; or she may have her climax later, before his erection subsides, or with his help by some other means afterwards. The main thing is that she is not abandoned just before she reaches the effulgent crest of her own sexual peak.

For that is a fallacy—that orgasm must always be a moment of explosive grandeur and delight for a wife, or that it need occur at all. There are cosy little hillocks of pleasure which are sometimes more satisfying than the vast heights. It all depends on how a woman feels.

And sometimes she can be contented and happy without any orgasm. She might be tired after a rugged day at the office or a nerve-frazzling session with the kids. But her husband is eager and desirous for sex.

It gives her a special kind of pleasure to co-operate. Emotional maturity consists of the ability to give as well as to share or receive.

Another disappointment that is fundamentally normal and unselfish can also cause anorgasmia.

It often happens that a woman who desperately wants children fails to enjoy intercourse because she is afraid she will not conceive. Many a marriage has been saved by successful fertility treatment.

Then the grandparents and friends nod approvingly because Sophie, who seemed more married to her career than to her Joe, or Sally, who wasted all her time and Jack's money in beauty parlors and clothes, finally procreated a baby. And now look how happy they are!

The inadequate woman has her natural happy responses destroyed by many other fears that prey on her mind and come between herself and her husband. Fears that are carried over from childhood are equally malignant.

The child who was spanked when she played with her vulva brings her instinctive fear of punishment into her adult sex life.

The little girl who was subjected to some frightening encounter, whether with a pervert or merely some curious little boys in the kindergarten, grows up unconsciously afraid of all men, including the kind, gentle husband who loves her.

Fear of sexual relations and anorgasmia may stem from ugly first impressions.

Vulgar talk, obscene words and gestures, slyly whispering playmates sometimes put an ominous mask over the true face of sex and create a fear that cripples ability for buoyant participation. The equivalent problem in men is delayed ejaculation, the inability to ejaculate during sex. If you click here you can read all about it.

A sense of guilt, however irrational, is also a frequent factor in lack of orgasm. Down deep somewhere in her being, a wife may feel that she has shamefully transgressed her family's standards of right and wrong.

Perhaps she was led to believe that only "bad" women, enjoy sexual intercourse; hence any pleasure must be sinful.

Perhaps she was strictly enjoined against masturbation as a crime against Nature. Well, she committed that crime and now has marched her into the prison of frigidity in marriage.

Guilt that comes from pre-marital sexual intercourse or as a result of infidelity after marriage is much easier to identify than guilty feelings rooted deep in the forgotten past.

A girl may be so overwhelmed by what to her was a grave lapse of moral rectitude before her wedding day that she becomes frigid as soon as she is married. She had a yeast infection in men which was described here.

Of course the exact opposite may be the result. Her adventures may have been so gratifying and so educational that they gave her a head start on her way to joyful, uninhibited sexual love life.

 

When she does have a guilty conscience, the sackcloth and ashes of her repentance might easily make the most beautiful of all human associations shameful and obnoxious to her, and wreck her husband's life as well.

Infidelity during marriage is almost bound to have the same serious consequences for the marital relationship. Actually, however, a happily married woman of any but the most superficial character is unlikely to become involved sexually outside her home.

When she loves her husband and the pair are mutually well adjusted, a wife's sexual needs are fulfilled and she has no compelling urge to search for excitement elsewhere.

But a woman who has believed herself frigid for years and has become more and more repelled by her husband's requirements not infrequently discovers that she is highly responsive to another man.

Other ratings involving attitudes toward sexual gratification and related issues were also secured. However, these procedures were really quite crude in the face of the complex phenomena they were supposed to evaluate.

Experiences during sexual arousal can potentially be scaled on a range of dimensions. Not only are there the obvious ones involving amount of sexual excitement, sexual tension, orgasmic release, and gross sexual "satisfaction," but also the following:

  • Feelings of tenderness and love toward the sex partner.
  • Feelings of unique intimacy. Satisfaction from body nudity and display.
  • Enjoyment in being an object of admiration. Satisfaction from being sexually competent.
  • Sensations of a unique kind of sexual "release." Emphatic definition of one's sexual identity.
  • Fantasy and imaginative role playing (for example, pretending to have a novel sex partner).
  • Satisfaction related to the act of creation and reproduction.
  • Enjoyment of muscular and kinesthetic variations.

This list could obviously be extended further. Those aspects of sexual experience that have been measured so far are only a small sample of the total possible.

Obviously, one cannot really treat sexual responsiveness as a unitary entity. There are many ways of defining what happens during a sexual interaction.

Sexual stimulation has complex effects and each individual may selectively focus on one effect as compared to another.

Sexual arousal can stir up a variety of fantasies; it may or may not eventuate in orgasm; the orgasm itself may be strong or weak; the orgasm may be enjoyable or even unenjoyable; the orgasm may be followed by relaxation or even by increased tension; there may be anorgasmia but the unresolved build-up of sexual excitement may somehow be an intriguing experience; the closeness of one's body to the sexual partner may be more prominent in awareness than the orgasm attained.

Not only do different women have different ways of enjoying (and not enjoying) sexual stimulation, but it is also probable that they individually fluctuate to some extent in their own pattern of enjoyment over a series of sexual contacts. The psychological complexity of sexual arousal in a woman cannot be overemphasized. It is too easy to slip into simplistic notions that women are neatly ordered into "sexy" and "non-sexy" categories.

The real complexity of the matter can perhaps best be conveyed by stating that there are instances in which the extremely "sexy" woman who always achieves intense orgasms may not derive as much satisfaction out of intercourse as the apparently less "sexy" woman whose orgasms are inconsistent and of lesser strength.

Measures of different aspects of the response to sexual stimulation either do not correlate with each other, or, if they do, the correlations are of low magnitude. A woman may be high in terms of one index of responsiveness and low in terms of another.

She may obtain much satisfaction from orgasm but prefer to engage in intercourse infrequently. She may rarely attain orgasm and still actually have a high intercourse rate.

Whether she attains orgasm may be unrelated to most of the qualitative sensations that she has during orgasm (for example, feeling tense or depersonalized). See this explanation of how to make a woman come for more information.

When referring to a woman's sexual responsiveness, care must be taken to specify a particular aspect or dimension. One can refer to her orgasm consistency, or her intercourse frequency, or her likelihood of avoiding trouble or difficulty in reaching orgasm during sex, feeling "ecstatic" during orgasm, or the frequency of intercourse she prefers, or the number of different intercourse positions she uses.

One would rarely be able to make the statement that she is generally high or low with respect to most of these dimensions. (Although a conclusion of this sort may appear to be unreasonable when applied to sexual behavior, it would not seem so if applied to another kind of appetite, such as eating.

The average person's "responsiveness" to food could probably not be adequately described by terms such as "high" or "low." One may enjoy food a great deal and yet eat only small quantities, or one may intensely enjoy a narrow spectrum of foods and dislike most others, or one may relish eating but begin to feel discomfort from it when the digestive processes get under way, or one may get more satisfaction from the social context of eating than from the food itself.)

Of course in reality life is simpler than the above information would suggest.

Most women enjoy intercourse, they prefer men to know how to last longer in bed, and they desire that any lover who they are going to appreciate in the longer term as a relationship partner is able to control his premature ejaculation sufficiently to give both the woman and the man pleasure during sex.

Naturally enough, as you may expect, retarded ejaculation does little or nothing to enhance the sexual pleasure of couples, and indeed may lead to break up if the issue is not resolved. More information on the subject of retarded ejaculation here.

Premature ejaculation is also unhelpful to couples how find that either of these sexual dysfunctions tends to be very disruptive to their emotional well being and physical pleasure.

I do recommend some treatment programs, however, because if the man is willing to pay a little time and attention to what might be classed as sexual dysfunctions, he can generally overcome both retarded and premature ejaculation without too much trouble.

Check out my Ejaculation By Command review here to see the best program for male control during lovemaking. It is written by Lloyd Lester, sex guru and adviser to thousands of people through the internet.

This general perspective does not mean that certain aspects of sexual responsiveness cannot be viewed as being relatively more important than others.

There is probably little question that the average woman places high value during intercourse on becoming highly sexually excited, being able to reach orgasm during intercourse, and finally arriving at a feeling of sexual fulfillment or satisfaction. She probably also attaches a fair amount of importance to the frequency with which she engages in intercourse.

Certain aspects of sexual arousal may, on the contrary, be ascribed low importance. In all likelihood, the average woman engaging in regular intercourse does not really care whether her orgasm is of extremely high intensity, moderate intensity, or low intensity, nor does she care about the amount of her vaginal lubrication, as long as it exceeds a certain minimum.

She is not terribly concerned about having multiple orgasms, and she does not have a large investment in using many sex positions or novel sex positions. Indeed, the evidence suggest most couples use only a few sexual techniques on a regular basis.

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